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Are you a victim of domestic violence? are you afraid of Your Partner’s Reaction? That’s Domestic Abuse — and It’s Not Your Fault

If you change your behaviour because you’re scared of how your partner — or ex-partner — might react, you are likely experiencing domestic abuse. Sadly, this is the reality for many people who suffer in silence. However, it’s important to understand: abuse is never your fault.

What Is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic abuse can affect anyone, regardless of gender, age, ethnicity, religion, or background. While it can happen in many types of relationships, statistics consistently show that most domestic abuse is committed by men and experienced by women.

More importantly, domestic abuse is a crime. It is not just a “relationship issue” or something to be fixed with time or patience. In fact, abuse is often about power and control — and it can take many forms.

Domestic Abuse Is Not Always Physical

Many people think of domestic abuse only as physical violence. However, it can also be:

• Emotional or psychological abuse

• Sexual abuse or coercion

• Financial control or economic abuse

• Digital or tech-based surveillance

• Controlling behaviour that limits your independence

Often, these behaviours build slowly over time, making it harder to recognise them or know when to seek help. As a result, many victims feel trapped and unsure about whether what they’re experiencing “counts” as abuse. It does.

Signs of Domestic Abuse

You may be experiencing domestic abuse if any of the following are true:

• Your partner is extremely jealous, possessive, or questions your loyalty

• He switches between kindness and cruelty, keeping you emotionally unstable

• He controls where you go, what you wear, or who you can talk to

• He insults or belittles you regularly

• You feel like you’re “walking on eggshells” to avoid setting him off

• He monitors your phone, tracks your location, or invades your privacy

• He pressures or forces you into sexual acts

• He manages all the money or makes you dependent on him financially

• He blocks your access to healthcare, phones, or support services

• He uses threats, intimidation, or manipulation to control your actions

Even one of these behaviours is a red flag. If several apply to your relationship, it’s a clear indication of domestic abuse.

You Deserve to Feel Safe

If this sounds familiar, please know: you are not alone, and it is not your fault. You have the right to safety, dignity, and freedom from fear — in your own home and in your life.

There are organisations, legal professionals, and support networks ready to help you. Reaching out is not weakness. In fact, it’s the first step toward reclaiming your life.

Where to Get Help

• National Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK): 0808 2000 247 (free and confidential)

• Women’s Aid: www.womensaid.org.uk

• Refuge: www.refuge.org.uk

• Solicitor Support: Speak to our family law solicitor for protection orders and legal rights on 02071836547

You’re Not to Blame — and You’re Not Alone

In conclusion, if you are afraid of your partner’s reaction, that fear is a warning sign. Domestic abuse is never justified, and you should never feel ashamed for speaking up or seeking help. You deserve respect, support, and a life free from abuse.